For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well- balanced mind and discipline and self-control. (2 Timothy 1:9 AMP)
The Bible promises Christians a sound mind. Mental illness, personality disorders and any form of psychological damage may result from childhood trauma, domestic abuse, demonic activity or disobedience to God (Deut 28:15, 28). Thoughts are jumbled, chaotic and there is an inner turmoil that feels like torture. A chemical imbalance in the brain can cause mood swings, aggression and depression. Sometimes medication is needed. Sometimes therapy, one-on-one counseling or a support group is needed. But one thing for sure, CHRIST IS NEEDED!
I believe for some people that going to professional secular help is necessary. It was for me. Equally important is help from our pastor and keeping a biblical perspective about our emotions and thoughts. God desires us to be whole. This would involve every aspect of our life—spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically.
So how do you get to that point of healing? Healing is certainly a process. It can be an ongoing thing, but I also experienced an “instant” healing that changed my life! I have another article titled “The Freedom of Forgiving Myself”. I will tell you…I am a hard case. I don’t know why that is and I wish I wasn’t like this because I could have saved myself from years and years of hardship and suffering if I would have just listened and followed God’s will for my life.
I’m one of those who has to experience everything for myself all the way down to rock bottom before I say, “okay, maybe you’re right”. In the meantime, I become a self-hater, self-loathing, never understanding why I do the things I do or why I want to do the things I do. Blaming others doesn’t work. Feeling sorry for myself doesn’t work. But God’s grace does work!
And you know, the bottom line is this….it doesn’t matter what others think you should do or how you do it, or what you do to get well, or how you do it to get well. What matters is the connection between myself and God. God is the only One who knows my heart. He is the only One who knows what I need and how and when I need it. So in a sense, for me, being healed and restored involved me being selfish and not letting anything or anyone influence me in the process. It’s between me and God.
If my heart is aligned with His heart and my thoughts are aligned with His thoughts, them I am living on purpose and according to His will.
So the healing begins by allowing me to forgive myself. To allow myself to put my foot down and say, “this is what I have to do to help me.” It may seem very self-centered and selfish to those looking from the outside. But let me reassure you…once I was able to forgive myself and allow Christ to heal my inner being, I came out a better person and a more likable person. This opened the doorway for me to get well and stay well for longer periods of time.
I certainly haven’t perfected this whole sobriety thing, but I’m much healthier mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I understand now what God means when He says He wants us to be made “whole”. In this wholeness I found inner joy and peace. I know that God has healed me from the guilt and shame I carried because I am able to open my eyes to things I couldn’t see before. He has opened my ears to things I haven’t heard before. Because of what Christ did for me on the cross, I can be healed and restored.